My passion for coaching young people through positive reform is two-fold. First, personal experience with quantum change in life, relationships, and career means I know a single choice today to change your tomorrows is a powerful place to be. I grew up at-risk and transitioned to high-risk in early adolescence. I grew up in a low-income household, lost a 16-year-old brother and cousin to homicide by peers over drugs, a 16-year-old brother to prison, and a 16-year-old cousin to suicide. I spent my teens involved in delinquency, drug abuse, and other harmful activities that I now dedicate my life to helping other young people avoid or transition away from. I came to my “aha” moment at 17, made drastic changes, and made it out to achieve personal, academic, and professional success thought beyond my reach as a teen. I know, first-hand, that dramatic change is not only possible but immediately available to anyone committed to it. My life’s purpose is to help other young people find success through positive, long-term change and achieve the potential they often don’t realize they have. Second, near a decade of formal study and research into delinquency and positive reform means I understand the science behind the process. Personal, professional, and social development are the keys to create the outcomes we seek. Each begins with self-exploration and self-mastery; and grow with focused work. Unfortunately, there’s no way around the work part. That’s where coaching comes in.
My work is grounded in contextual behavioral science and choice theory. My coaching approach is pragmatic and evidence-based.
To summarize those ideas, our thoughts, emotions, and behaviors are instruments that serve a purpose and contribute to our outcomes. We can create positive outcomes from the inside out through self-insight, practical strategies, and consistent, meaningful, targeted action. I coach to promote clients’ rationality, agency, and attention to knowledge and skills development relevant to their goals.
The Following Concepts Guide My Approach
- Humans share a natural drive to meet the following needs: autonomy (free will, self-direction, human agency), relatedness (belonging), competence (to be able and capable), psychological growth, well-being, and self-actualization (to achieve our fullest potential).
- Social contexts (environments and relationships) that encourage the satisfaction of these needs foster inner motivation enhancing psychological growth and well-being.
- Social contexts that stand in the way of our basic needs cultivate poor motivation, performance, and well-being.
- Humans are self-determined agents with the power to grow, change, overcome, and achieve.
- Our perception DOES create our reality. The problem there is that our perceptions are too often flawed leading to unfounded assumptions, beliefs, resulting attitudes, perspectives, motivations, and behaviors born of automatic processes that we too often allow to go on unchallenged. The beautiful thing there is that perceptions are easily adjusted with attention, time, and effort. Hence, intentional transformation is possible.
- Many of our life moments are born of self-fulfilling prophecies.
- All behavior is a result of the complex interplay of the person and the situation at the time of the behavior. Context is everything.